A Get Along Jar

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If your kids are anything like mine, then they fight. I’m not sure exactly why so much. But they just know how to push each others buttons. I’ve noticed over the last few months there is a pattern. They miss each other during the week, so in the weekday afternoons they play nicely. But on the weekends by Saturday afternoon, they are both in separate rooms.

Well, I am tired of it! Every weekend it’s the same thing – Selah yells at Finn and Finn tells on Selah. Over and over again. Now, I’m not writing this as a venting session. I’m writing this because I’m hoping I found a solution. There are tons of blog posts about this topic. But I came upon this one on Pinterest.I liked it because she provides a bunch of ideas as well as a templates print out. All I had to do was get a mason jar, print the ideas, and glue everything together! When they start fighting, I simply point them to the get along jar. They choose a craft stick and then do what it says. Fingers crossed this works!

Click here for the templates

Then grab a mason jar and here are some ideas you can add to craft sticks:

  1. Say three nice things about the other person.
  2. Chose one of your sibling’s chores and do it for them.
  3. Turn on some music and dance together for at least five minutes.
  4. Read a storybook together, taking it in turns to each read a page.
  5. Set the table together.
  6. Choose GRACE.
  7. Clear out the car.
  8. Make up a ‘getting along song’ and perform it for the family.
  9. Make the other person’s bed.
  10. Draw or write an apology letter to the other person.
  11. Write a poem for the other person.
  12. Clean the back deck.
  13. Get each other a glass of water and sit outside to drink it.
  14. Draw something positive about your sibling.
  15. Sweep the floor together.
  16. Make each other a ‘sorry’ card.
  17. Dust the furniture in a certain room together
  18. Play Simon Says for six minutes, with each person being Simon for three minutes.
  19. Jump on the trampoline together for at least five minutes.
  20. Go have a real wrestling match outside.
  21. Draw a picture of each other.
  22. Give each other a big hug.
  23.  Play a board game together.
  24. Put away your sibling’s laundry.
  25. Go and check the mail together.
  26. Draw and write a positive about your sibling.
  27. Clean the bathroom sinks together.
  28. Pick up the other person’s toys.
  29. Do 10 sit-ups, 10 star jumps and five push-ups.
  30. Tell each other a story.
  31. Draw a picture together
  32. Tell each other a secret.
  33. Do a kind deed together for someone else.
  34. Ask your sibling to tell you one thing they would like you to do differently.
  35. Clean the sliding glass doors together (one on each side).

My hope is this will help them to learn how to work out their differences on their own. Because of course, that’s how it works in the real world as they get older 🙂

Any other “get along” ideas you can add to my list?

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My Own Expectations

“The ability to last in motherhood requires giving up expectations for our own life, deciding that sacrificing our desires and wants for the sake of our family is our gift of worship to our Heavenly Father.”

If you follow me on social media, then you have seen me post about this book I’m reading. It’s called Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe. This book has really come at a good time. I left my full-time job in January of this year. It took about 7 months for me to fully transition and get used to being home full-time. The job of being a full-time mom is way harder than I imagined. But God has used this time to really grow me.

I have learned that I am quite the selfish person. I get upset when something inconveniences me. And being around a 4 and 1 year old that will happen a lot. Over the last few months God has continued to point this out to me. And I am working through it. God has reminded me that I’m a full-time missionary in this high-calling of motherhood.

Last week this statement jumped off the page of the book –

“The ability to last in motherhood requires giving up expectations for our own life, deciding that sacrificing our desires and wants for the sake of our family is our gift of worship to our Heavenly Father.”

What a concept I thought! And it’s such truth. So I decided to start over. I followed these steps below and began a new journey in my calling as a mom to my two kids.

1. I asked my Savior for forgiveness. And then I asked my children for forgiveness.
2. I start each day giving up my day. I give up what I want to accomplish. If you know me than you know I still have a plan. But I am working to not hold on too tightly to that plan.
3. I keep my eyes open for teachable moments. Moments that I will miss if I’m too focused on what I want to do.
4. I pray continually – less of me, more of you.

I know this was a long post. But as I close I want to share this with you. Finn drew this picture of our family. I am so grateful I was here to see it. What a beautiful heart he has!

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Perfect Doesn’t Exist

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Do you see those nasty dishes? Goodness who’s sink is that? Uh oh it’s mine! Hahaha! So I have really been working on having an off time each day. Mine is 8:30 pm. If it gets to 8:30 and I haven’t done the dishes then I have to leave them til morning. This is not an easy thing to do. However it is necessary for me.

There is always work to do in this house!

I’m learning slowly that down time is important so that I don’t burn out. I pray this post encourages you to create down time as well. As wives, moms, and women we need to take care of ourselves! Our job of serving our families is a very important job!

Anyway – I sure am thankful that I’ve learned perfect doesn’t exist us – only my Savior is perfect!

End of Summer Blues

I woke up this Monday with some sadness in my heart. I’ve realized I only have 2 more weeks left of my summer with the kids. Finn will be starting a 3K program on 9/3. And just like that our summer of fun is over.

I know I posted some pictures last week. But I thought it would be fun to have a list documented of all that was done this summer. It really is true that “the days are long but the years are short.” Time is flying by so I’m working hard to soak in every memory. I’m so thankful to be home with my kids full time.

This summer we made some awesome memories…

1. Selah took off walking. That was so fun to watch. I had been waiting months for her to to all take off. And sure enough towards the end of May she just walked. Days after she was already running. I’ve noticed she catches on to things very quickly!

2. Summer Field Trips – I’m part of a group that does summer field trips. They are planned by one of my best friends, Ashley. We went to the Suwannee Train Museum, INK Children’s Museum, Splash Pad, Bruster’s, Lowe’s, and Farmhouse in the City. We had a blast!

3. Friday Playgroup – We spent almost every Friday at the pool. A few Fridays we did something different. Once we did NP Mall and another time we went to the Atlanta Zoo. Loved my time with those moms and their kiddos!

4. Rest days – over the summer I plugged in one lazy day every week. On our rest days we stay in our pjs all day. We play games. We build forts. We have picnics. We watch movies. We do whatever we want!

5. School – even though its summer we still did some learning. Finn has continued practicing his name. And he’s got that down. He is also doing great sounding out words and recognizing letters. He will look at something and guess at what it says. So we are working on that! Both kids have learned a few verses. Even Selah can do all the hand motions.

6. Teething – Selah spent most of the summer teething. That was fun. Not at all fun! But as of a few weeks ago all her teeth are in except her 2 yr molars. So it will be nice to have a break on the teething thing.

7. We took several trips – we went to Gaitlinburg, TN as a family. That was a crazy but fun trip! The kids and I went to Ft. Walton Beach and had an awesome time. Gregory went to Haiti! And then right at the end of July I surprised Gregory with a trip to Winshape Retreat. We loved that place so much!

8. Chapters – at the end of June, I ended my chapter of working at North Point. Hardest thing I’ve ever done. I also started my own business. God closed a door but opened a new one. I did not want to ever leave North Point. But it was what was best for me and my family. I will forever miss that place and the friends I made in my 6 yrs there. My new business is called Kiwi Scripts. Basically I work a few hours a week writing. I do meal planning, local blog posts, and marketing copy for websites. If you need any of that – please let me know. I love what I’m doing! You can find out more here.

All in all this summer was full of tantrums, smiles, crying, laughing, time-outs, music playing, fort building, discipline, dancing, cookouts, napping, and plenty of memory making! I will end this summer smiling. I’m just so grateful to be home. God’s plan is ALWAYS better than your own!

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